March 4, 2020
I’m still feeling shocked and more than a little sad.
One of my young five year old kindergarten kiddos said some things today that are cringe-worthy.
He was talking to his math interventionist while they were working today in my classroom. He stopped his work to share a story with a big smile on his face, obviously feeling proud of what he was about to say.
“My dad said I should be a good boy at school and a bad boy at home.” He said this last part while wiggling his eyebrows up and down.
Miss J handled it pretty well. Better than I did...standing there with my jaw hanging open. She said she thought he should be a good boy at school AND at home. He scowled a bit and thought about that quietly for a few minutes.
And that’s when the real shock hit.
“Miss J,” he said. “I can’t wait until I’m a grown up.”
“Why?” she asked.
“Because I will be able to have a girlfriend and I can hold her boobs! My dad told me.”
This boy is 5. He’s an immature 5 year old even. This leaves me feeling sad and wondering so many things.
Why would they have been having this conversation in the first place? Why would a grown man tell his 5 year old child something like that? If he is talking this way as a 5 year old, what is going to happen when he’s 10 or 15?
Now, I realize I am all out judging this father right now, but what kind of shady dude do you have to be to do this? Then I realize that this boy lives with his dad because he’s the “better” parent in this situation.
To top it off, I also had:
* a child steal a toy from another staff member and lie about it
* a child screaming and crying for 10 minutes because he didn’t like what he had to do
* a child refuse to do her work during math time and missed recess to complete her work
* a child pat a staff member on the behind as he walked by her
What is happening in their worlds to create situations where these things are all happening on a regular basis? This is just a typical Wednesday.